One thing I’m great at that I wish I wasn’t is comparing myself to others around me. I tend to look at the variety of things they are accomplishing then reflect on the things I am accomplishing myself. This is an extremely strange loop of life to be in as I know that it is good to a certain extent to evaluate where you are at so that you can decide where you want to go, but it is extremely dangerous to dwell on what others are doing insomuch that you fail to recognize what you can be doing yourself.
I know that I am not alone in spending a little too much time comparing myself, my job, and my life overall with the lives of others I know. I know this because there is a term that is used to describe people who use others as a benchmark of success; this term is known as “Keeping up with the Joneses”. Who are the Joneses you might be asking yourself? They are someone you hope to emulate and become like almost with a feeling of resentment.
The resentment comes when you fail to match what others have been able to do with their time, skillset, and money. As I stated before it is not bad to compare yourself to others so long as it is done in a healthy way that enables you to grow and progress. I know that for me I do best when I see what others are doing, aspire to do great things too and set off on my own journey to greatness. Is it an easy journey? Not at all, you are usually alone in your desire and pursuit as others have their own quests they are on. If you are smart you can utilize others along the way and collaborate and build partnerships that can benefit you both along the way.
So remember it’s not bad to compare yourself to others, just do it in a healthy way then set your goals and move forward.
Each of us perceives the world slightly different from the other, this is what causes our realities to be different. The good things some see in the world could be seen as just okay or not noteworthy by others. Stressful situations for some might be someone else’s comfort zone and so on. The way each of us perceive the world is what makes life unknown in ways because we never know what someone might do or say when experiencing a situation.
We can all admit that there are days when we struggle to see the good in anything. When work sucks, our car sucks, our relationships are bad, or life just isn’t great at that moment. These days happen to everyone and can happen anytime. Sometimes life is just unpredictable. There are a few ways to combat these days when our perception of the world around us is abnormally harsh.
Take a little personal time and write down everything that is poisoning your day. Just write it down, get those terrible feelings out of you as quickly as you can. Writing these things down can be difficult because you may not agree with what you are writing, you might feel torn between how you feel in the moment and how you feel in general. Feeling this way okay, its the process of writing the rough moments on paper that help you think through the reality of life at the time and move forward. Give it a try.
Another great option to help adjust your perspective on a challenging day is to talk it out with a friend while doing some type of activity. Perhaps a walk around your office just to vent, working on a puzzle, playing laser tag, hiking, throwing axes, or boxing could be the best way to talk it out and work the challenges out. I have tried all of the ideas I wrote above and they’ve helped me personally, just tailor your activity to you and see how that works for you.
As a writer, you scribble words on a page for others to read. You hope the words you write flow together in a series that makes sense to those who might read them and relate to you just enough they keep reading. Your stories and messages may not always be perfect at all times but be perfect for certain seasons of life when the reader can relate to the writer and their thoughts put to written words.
As a reader, you are reading into the mind and soul of the writer. The way that they see life, their interpretation of it, and their hopes for it. For some readers, the ability to immerse yourself in a book for hours on end might come easier than for others. Personally, I read one page at a time. I set reading goals based around the time I set aside each day to read. I set a specific time aside each day due to the schedule I have and the ease of distractions that can consume my day.
I enjoy reading slowly to best understand the material the author has taken the time to organize and present. I know there are many who have the ability to read fast and retain knowledge, I am not one of those people. I can obviously skim pages and retain a few key points but the overall message of the text is often missed if I speed read. If you’re like me one page at a time is the best way to read a good book.
No matter your reading level you can set a few minutes aside each day and read a little but. No matter what you like to read a newspaper, a magazine, a story, or something educational reading is reading and you’ll be better for it. I try reading around lunchtime on my lunch break, it is a good way to refresh myself and disconnect from work for a short time. Whenever you can schedule in a few minutes to read daily and see how your world changes one page at a time.
The lack of posts last month was the cause of numerous excuses made by me. I made the decision that I wanted to put out content that made sense that could motivate people to live happier lives. After the first night of closing my laptop because my writing didn’t have meaning or make sense a trend began of repeated nights of closed laptop and excuses to avoid writing my nightly entry. I sabotaged my own goal because I was afraid of becoming stagnant in my personal growth.
What I noticed with all my excuses came actual feelings of stagnation with my daily routines. I felt that writing something out at night was the last push at putting thoughts out there that might help someone in their life. It’s a strange thing to want to have influence that reaches farther than your immediate circle or people you know in day to day life. The world is a big place but the opportunities the internet allows for are endless because just a few minutes of typing and a few clicks and my thoughts are shared around the globe.
This isn’t a promise to anyone but myself to be better this month at writing my desired three hundred words a day, every day. My goal is to finish the month with a post a day as I had committed to at the beginning of the year. This was my original intent to write simple messages that might have an influence on others. So here we go again.
We need to spend more time doing the things we want to, less dragging ourselves through the hoops others expect of us to each day. Take a little more time for yourself, disconnect from your phone and live a life less connected.
That’s the message for today live a better life through taking a little more control of your time each day.