Once you set a goal what is your actual endgame? Are you willing to put in the work to see it from inception to fruition? Can you visualize yourself along the journey working through the ups and downs, are you prepared to fall, then rise again to the next wave of challenges ahead? It’s easy to set a goal, the hard part is the steps in between where you have to stick to it and work for your desired outcome.
Tonight we watched “Free Solo” a visual tale of Alex Honold as he prepares to free solo the freerider route on El Capitan. Watching Alex interact with his friends and family as he worked toward his goal was very interesting due to the fact that he remained vocal about his desired outcome and the risk that accompanied his lofty goal. Throughout the film, you watch as he experiences injury, personal preparation both mental and physical, doubt, and finally the completion of his goal. The way the film is shown allows the viewer to experience the actual scale of the challenge and find themselves sweaty-palmed and ready for the next movement on the journey.
As we decide on what challenge we want to accept we need to recognize the challenges there will be. The road will be ready for our feet, but will our feet be ready for the different objects along the way? Personally, the best way I’ve found if I am ready or not is by doing the thing I want to do. If I want to be able to run a 10k I need to start running a few times a week at various distances, recording my time, preparing my mind and body for each step along the way and acknowledging that there will be good days but there will also be bad days. Days where I do not want to run, I can choose on those days if I am going to walk my needed distance, a combination of walking and running, pushing through the pain of the run on that day, or just avoid it altogether.
At the end of the day, week, year, or years how you decide to start and complete your goals are entirely up to you. You can allow these goals to stand at the front of your priority list or have them as passive companions to other worthy pursuits. Either way, you decide how to set out and complete your goal. The key is to set small manageable goals as you start out, then after you get better at achieving your goals set larger loftier goals that stretch you a bit more than your previous accomplishments did. Don’t limit your opportunities because you fear failure, embrace failure to allow for more opportunities to see your goals from dreams to destinations.
Last year I challenged myself to read as many books as possible by reading at least thirty minutes a day. I made it my mission to read those thirty minutes anywhere I could which led me to read on the train, airplanes, early in the morning, late in the night, and once on the side of the road. Reading helped keep my mind active, and my interest in personal development consistent. I learned to enjoy reading different types of books, with different outcomes. Some were business related with life hacks on optimizing my time. Others were stories that helped me escape the day to day stress that I was living with but taught me life lessons through the fictitious works designed to make readers think about situations in a different light.
All the reading that I did last year inspired me to continue reading this year, but to start writing more to share what I was learning and my take on the life lessons I was reading about. Mankind has been writing for about ten thousand years now, meaning that reading has been around roughly the same amount of time. Early on reading and writing was a skill held by religious leaders, the wealthy, and often self-taught intellectuals who kept the skill hidden from said leaders to avoid punishment. We have progressed from times where few had the opportunities to learn how to read and write to today where we do our best to teach each other how to read and write daily. What a world to live in where we have printed and digital copies of written works by many who wrote publically and secretly for the benefit of mankind.
I wrote that small thought on reading and writing as a reminder of how fortunate we are to have the ability to read and write today. That nearly anyone who wants to learn these skills has the opportunity to do so no matter their race or gender due to the progress we have made in society. There are those who try and hold back these opportunities from others but the desire to learn can outsmart the ability to withhold said information.
Today, be grateful that you can read this. Remember that reading for fun or pleasure isn’t a waste of time but an investment in your mind.I’m not saying read thirty minutes a day as I did for a year but I am encouraging you to find time to learn, read an article, full out a crossword, and find a way to engage your mind daily in the learning process.
Tonight I finished watching the Netflix series, Russian Doll. Warning, possible spoilers ahead if you haven’t finished the series. The lead character in the series Nadia begins a series of loops where she struggles to find a safe way to navigate life, eventually finding herself cautious yet still struggling to move forward in life. She eventually meets Alan on an elevator and shares a unique moment that leads to a friendship of shorts leading to an understanding that they need to work together to help the other move forward a better person.
This process takes some time as they struggle to better understand each other, find balance in their friendship, and take some time apart to realize that friendship is a challenge accepting even when the other person might demand you get lost. After an extended time, they recognize the benefit of working together to free each other from past baggage and move forward together as friends into the unknown.
Friendship comes in all shapes and sizes due to the fact that we all bring different pros and cons together at the table as friends. Our strengths and weaknesses become well known to others as we spend time together and dare to share the truest parts of ourselves as the friendship grows from the first contact to extended years of experience. We know that having true friendships can benefit us if we are willing to trust our friends and welcome them in when we need them most and vice versa we need to be ready to be a friend who can listen at times, speak at others, and just be there for brunch on an odd day when opportunity knocks,
Some are fortunate and have the ability to easily make friends and build lasting relationships in a short time. Others might struggle to find real common ground with others and hold back on trusting their friends with heavy thoughts and feelings out of fear of oversharing and scaring away friendship. There are friends who are a mixture of these two types where one party is vastly more open and another is a better listener who shares smaller pieces back that are solidifying pieces of the friendship.
We are great as individuals, we can accomplish great things on our own, and nobody should tell you otherwise. Add any number of friendships and you will be strengthened by others and aided in your day to day conquests by supporters who believe in you too. Alone we can do many things, together we can do anything.
If there is one thing that humans are extraordinary at, it is rushing to and fro from one appointment to another. We are constantly on the move and we show no signs of slowing down. I’ve noticed this in myself I have a list of places to be each day, a list of tasks that need to be done, and only so many hours to accomplish everything I’d like to see happen. When I fail to check off my many tasks those unchecked are rolled over to the next day and the rush starts all over again.
Why is it that we are so invested in checking things off our list just to add a few more “to do’s” for ourselves? Have you ever thought to yourself; “I’m making life more complicated than it needs to be?” or “if only I didn’t have to do this I’d be able to…”. I’ve found myself adding errands to my day that weren’t exactly necessary, yet “might” be helpful if I did them. Many of these things are nonessentials that are often done out of the possibility of what could happen if we were to do them.
If someone asked you what you could do to slow down and take a few moments for yourself each day I’d assume that you could count a few things that you do that could be skipped this time, postponed, or just removed from your tentative “to do” list altogether. We live in an era of fast technology changes that often leave many of us a few steps behind on our day to day knowledge of how things work. That’s okay, it’s a good thing to not know everything and need to slow down and ask people for help. As silly as it might sound just asking someone a question and being willing to listen and contribute to the conversation could really help you to slow down and take a moment and breathe.
When I originally thought about spending a year working on a writing project I wondered who was this person who wanted to spend three hundred and sixty five days writing about one word subjects? I suppose that’s who I am these days, a novice writer with big ambitions, and a platform to share them on. This is something I’ve wanted to work on for a few years now; a project to improve my writing abilities, vocabulary, and marketing skills.
For as long as I can remember I’ve personally enjoyed short and simple readings because I’ve always been an on the go person. I feel confident in saying that much of the population is the same. We are busy people who hurry from one place to another and attempt to squeeze in time for a balanced life that combines employment, self education(Autodidacticism, Just learned that.), time for entertainment(on and off screen), wellness, and time with family and friends. Busy people need information that is short and sweet conveying just enough information to spark curiosity and further personal interest in the subject.
This project is my hopes to share easy to read information to potential readers. My hope is to provide messages that can inspire, motivate, humor, and encourage others to continue educating themselves and push forward with their personal goals daily.
A final note to this introduction, recognize is that I’m not a professional writer. This project is designed to aid me in personal growth and confidence as a writer, storyteller and researcher. I’ll do my best to provide value with each post written and hope that you as a reader feel comfortable giving constructive feedback as we grow together this year.
Today is day one of my three hundred words a day project, kicking off with the word Project.